Step 3: Find and commit to what feels good
This is an important step in creating a life of meaning and fulfillment. The kind of life you have is formed by the things you are doing. It only makes sense that if you are doing things that you don't enjoy, the kind of life you will be leading would be an unsatisfactory one. Make a firm commitment to make choices that contribute to your well-being. Yes, we all have things that we "must" do, but there is a lot of choice. We choose the kind of friends we spend time with, we choose our jobs, and everything else about how we live from what we put into our bodies to the way we move and speak. This step is about finding your passions in life- what gets you excited? As we experience things, it is important to use awareness to see if we are enjoying what we are experiencing. If the experience is not enjoyable, it is best to not do it again. If it brings excitement and passion, do it again. Simple as that. Just like a formula in math helps one achieve a certain result, we must find the formula of what gives us the result of a happy life.
It is like going to a restaurant and ordering from a menu. Not knowing the menu could result in ordering something that doesn't satisfy the taste buds, but that is part of the process. We don't always know what we like or what works right away. But with an openness to possibility and the willingness to experience, we find the formula that rings true. Fortunately the contrast of realizing what we don't like actually helps us solidify what we do like and enjoy. Now, coming back to the idea of a menu- the more we discover what brings us happiness and joy, we simply build upon our own menu or formula. Knowing what makes us feel good cultivates motivation. You'd rather be motivated to do something that brings joy right? So nurture your passions and be open to experience what life has to offer. If something doesn't taste good, take it off your menu and find something that does feel good. If the people around you are negative and critical, find people who are positive. Everything is out there, we just have to be willing to do some searching. So search on and make your own menu!