Thursday, 26 February 2015

LOVE is a choice. of us has our own experience and meaning when it comes to love. And rightly so, because there are so many different ways to experience, express and channel it. Love is limitless.

What I've discovered along my journey is that we all have love within us. It is the most powerful energy we have and are, and when manifested in our relationships and work, has the power to move mountains.

While there are many experiences and expressions, what I know for sure about love and connection, is that we cultivate it when we allow our most vulnerable selves to be seen. Mustering the courage to express our deepest feelings is a risk. And so is speaking up and asking for what we need. But these are the essentials of self love. Simply being ourselves is a risk, but we will always be free to be ourselves in our relationships.

The right people will love us for who we are. I've realized its not worth holding back who we are. Ever.

We must choose to open up to love. And this begins with opening up to the love within ourselves.

Brene Brown sums it all up powerfully in these lines..

“We cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known, and when we honor the spiritual connection that grows from that offering with trust, respect, kindness and affection.

Love is not something we give or get; it is something that we nurture and grow, a connection that can only be cultivated between two people when it exists within each one of them – we can only love others as much as we love ourselves.

Shame, blame, disrespect, betrayal, and the withholding of affection damage the roots from which love grows. Love can only survive these injuries if they are acknowledged, healed and rare.” 

We make the choice to open up to the love within ourselves each day. When we learn to love ourselves first, honor our needs and boundaries, embrace our vulnerability and see that regardless of where we are and who we are with, we are worthy.

From this place, we know how to love another. Our love is free because we don't look for it from someone else, we simply share what we already have within us. Without the attachment and dependency, we love without expectation.

 And in the space and freedom, our love will grow in ways beyond what we can sometimes conceive until we experience it. It will extend into every area of our life and to everyone around us.

And its when we give ourselves the permission to rise up and shine, regardless of our circumstances or what other people tell us, that we also give others the permission to express their own limitless source of love.

Tuesday, 17 February 2015

When Not Giving A Fuck is Actually a Good Thing when I'm running, clarity comes to me. I think of great ideas and the most urgent calls for action become apparent. I know whats important, and also the shit I need to let go.

I'm sure many of you can relate. I've come to believe that it's the practice of moving our bodies and becoming present with our breath and the moment that we are able to move past the story of our minds and hear the whispers of our soul.

And bam, it hit me. Next blog. I'm going to talk about how we need to care less about what other people think. It's so important for our souls and the pursuit of living our dreams.

There will be many times when others don't agree or believe in the way we see things. This is none of our business and a great time to not waste any energy convincing.

Anything is true if we believe in it. Essentially, we become what we think about most of the time. If we think somethings possible, then it is. And vice versa. We have a choice on the thoughts we think, content we absorb, things we do and people we surround ourselves with.

It doesn't matter if everyone agrees, what matters is finding what makes us feel good. "Our joy is our greatest service to the world."

Everyone is entitled to their own truth and beliefs. And if someone is trying to put you down with their limiting belief system, it is a reflection of who they are and what they think they are able to accomplish, not you.

Most of the time, this would be the best time to walk away. We cannot change others, only ourselves. We can choose to be around people who lift us up. And the opinions that don't support or inspire our growth, expansion and love are not worth spending energy on. At all.

At the end of the day, the right people will stay in our lives effortlessly.

“Don't chase people. Be yourself, do your own thing and work hard. The right people - the ones who really belong in your life - will come to you. And stay.”

- Will Smith

We owe it to ourselves to not give a fuck what the naysayers tell us. Really, the only voice we need to listen to is the one deep within. It is also from within that our power lies and the best place to start if we want to follow our bliss.

When we stop caring so much about what other people think or needing external approval or permission to follow our dreams, we set ourselves free.

We get to define ourselves. Every day. From the moment we wake up in the morning. We get to choose.

The effect of making empowering choices is that we attract the right people and circumstances. Yes, we may not get the approval from everyone, but we follow our heart and find ourselves connecting with higher quality relationships and opportunities to grow and thrive.

Marianne Williamson wisely quotes, "Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do." If we depend on the opinions of others, we serve up our power. Unconditional self love is to, regardless of what other people think, give ourselves the permission to live out our greatness and shine our light. From this point, we've found our true power from within.

And sometimes, this mean's not giving a fuck about what some people think.

Sunday, 1 February 2015

Why We Need to Take Fun More Seriously all sometimes fall into the trap that in order to get things done, to move forward in life and attract the situations and people we want, we need to only work hard and take things seriously.

Now while I'm all for doing the work to create the reality we want to live in, I've also come to realize that fun and play are not opposite to work, they are the ideal compliments.

 "The opposite of play is not work—the opposite of play is depression."
- Brené Brown

Fun, laughter, play and silliness open our eyes up to spontaneity, creativity, new solutions and deeper connection with ourselves and the people around us.

Fun brings us to the present moment.

And fun is a choice. It's a choice in how we want to see things.

My current phone wallpaper is "Happiness is not a state to arrive at, but a manner of traveling." The other day this really clicked. If I'm setting goals, I want to have fun along the journey. This is also where the growth happens.

And the external results we attract (money, people, recognition) as a result of our work will naturally happen. We need not worry so much about the result, the result will happen. We need to focus on how we feel along the journey.

This doesn't mean we lose sight of the forest through the trees. Having a destination in mind demands focus and the vision of what we will create is a source of excitement and motivation, but it's on the journey that we find fulfillment.

I've played with the idea that fun is literally a mindset, an awareness, a state of being that raises our vibration. And science proves that laughter and mischief literally opens our mind as it raises levels of happy hormones such as serotonin and acts to rewire the neural connections in our brain.We naturally allow more positive ways of thinking into our mind.

This is serious biz guys!

Laughter is the best medicine, the best drug. It's interesting because the first blog entry I wrote in this blog was about the "Power of Laughter" and how many benefits we receive when we laugh. And now it's hit me once again. Full force.

I mentioned to my Life Coach recently that I want to be a fool. She asked me what I meant and I referred to the idea that we have this idea that we need to be serious and try really hard to get anything done, that it's supposed to always be hard. And it will be this way if this is what we believe. But since we choose our beliefs, I emphasized that it was time to bring more foolishness into my life.

You know how they say, "Set goals that scare you"? This intention literally scared me.
So I'm going to "be fun" and see what that attracts? She agreed and it clicked with me.

Now I want to clarify that having fun doesn't mean we don't acknowledge, hold space and honor our pain, anger and struggles. Of course we do. What I'm saying is that somewhere along the journey, we open up our minds to different ways of seeing things, and leave an open seat for fun.