Wednesday, 18 December 2013

Letting Go in the Face of Adversity bumped into a familiar face today- she also happened to be the manager who hired me at a job that didn't end up being what I was looking for. Nonetheless, she kindly asked me how things were going and I recounted the past few months in a short conversation- all the ups and downs. She exchanged a similar story.

And it really made me realize two things. That whatever we are going through, there are others going through the same thing. And also, that when we go through times of change, uncertainty and loss, we become stronger.

A breakup.

Losing a job.

These are all things that we all deal with throughout our lives. They test our courage, faith and persistence. But at the end of the day, we learn and become stronger. We ask for help, practice self care and connect with all the resources that support us in staying grounded- not to mention sane.

Times of change, adversity and loss can we quite emotional, making it sometimes hard for us to see past the emotion. Believe me, I know. At the beginning of a breakup we find ourselves thinking about the good things. The things that we miss.

But then we remind ourselves of why the relationship didn't work. And although our love may be more alive than ever, we learn to embrace change.

We remind ourselves that the only thing that is certain in life is that things will change and that by acknowledging and moving with this truth, we are living. Because to resist change is to resist life. 
When one door closes , another one opens. "often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.” (Helen Keller)

So we learn to let go of the way we think things "should" be and our need to control - to allow change to naturally unfold. We stop resisting and start listening. We start seeing past our story- our assumptions, plans and exceptions.

We allow life to unfold and surprise us as we become more spontaneous and adventurous. As we let go of the limits that the stories we have told ourselves have created.

And although this may be a hard process, learning to let go, it is unbelievably worth it.

Because when we let go who we think we should be, this is when we allow ourselves to become who we truly are.



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