Thursday, 14 March 2013

Pave Your Own Road: Letting Go of the Opinions of Others
The older we get, the better we know ourselves. Ideally, the better we know ourselves we should rely less on the opinions of others when we make decisions. We should gain confidence with age.

However, when we are not following our true path of what feels right, being confident becomes a challenge. If we give in to what other people expect of us and live a life of pleasing others, how the hell can we expect to gain confidence? True confidence comes when we know ourselves and act with our true needs and desires. The better we can make decisions in alignment with what we really want, confidence flourishes. Because it just feels right. The need to seek reassurance lessens.

And even when we are following our hearts, it takes time for confidence t o build. We must really get to know ourselves, practice making many decisions and learn to trust ourselves along the way. It takes a whole lot of courage and perseverance to do what you want to do and not care what other people think. But I can tell you, that it is worth it.

If the direction in which we steer our boat is based upon the opinions of others, we become a victim of circumstance. But if we are the ones deciding, if we can steer our own boats, then we become creators. For at the end of the day, there is no perfect decision. What matters most is that we are making it.

So screw what other people think. Who cares what so-and-so thinks about what you are doing? What does it matter? I have realized that at the end of the day, the people who actually care about me will support me no matter what. And everyone else? Screw them! Screw the people who don't get it, who don't have anything positive to say.

"You got a dream, you gotta protect it. People can't do somethin' themselves, they wanna tell you you can't do it. If you want somethin', go get it. Period."

- The Pursuit of Happyness



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