Making Decisions you Love

By simply being a part of life, we find ourselves in the position of making decisions each day. Big decisions and small ones. Crazy ones, boring ones and scary ones. We may choose to not decide, which is also a decision in itself. Small decisions pass us by like cars- they're not a big deal, but they're still there.

It's the big decisions we often overthink and stress about. Maybe you're needing to make one as you read this. The truth is that at some point, we realize that we need to move the process forward.

When it comes down to making the decisions that empower us to become our strongest selves, I want to share with you some of the insight I've gathered along my journey.

The first thing I usually do before anything else when I need to make a decision, is slow down and get in touch with myself. Finding ways to connect to our inner voice is the key here and there are many ways to do this, depending on what works best for you.

Meditation and mindfulness (being aware of the present moment) is very effective.
Spending time alone in stillness, or even spending time in a calming space like a restorative yoga class can help us connect to ourselves.
Spending time in nature.
Going for a run.
Getting a coffee and sitting in a coffee shop.
All these are potential ways in which we can connect to our inner voice.

The goal is to create space to become present. There we will hear the whispers of our heart.

 Creating space also means setting boundaries with people, work and technology. When I need time to reflect and connect to myself, I put my phone on airplane mode so I simply won't see any notifications. It's about stepping back and having perspective.

By this point, the decision may become clear. Bam. We move forward.

It may also not, and that's okay. But usually something has come up and we need to get more clear. 

Writing is a great way to process our inner experiences and emotions, otherwise finding a professional or friend who supports our journey can be very effective. It's okay to ask for help.

So here we are. You took time to slow down and get present, you talked about it, but there is still hesitation.

This is the point where I've realized that it's crucial that we understand that there is no such thing as the "right" or perfect decision. We need to take the time to pause and reflect, but sometimes we need to act before we're ready. There is a bit of a balance we must be aware of. Constantly pushing doesn't work, but at some point, thinking doesn't either.

There will never be a point when the circumstances are perfect or there is no fear, which is why we must do the thing anyway.

We make "a" decision and then we make it "right." It's much more important that we are decisive over certain.

It is through the doing and moving that we learn and grow so there is only so much we can prepare and plan. There is only so much we can think about before we simply take the step and embrace the adventure and uncertainty with courage.

This is how we step into our power.